Just the Two of Us

When MacKay and I started dating we would spend as much time with each other as possible. We had a long distance relationship so when we were together our time was precious. After we got married and had our own house it was so great to do all of the fabulous things that young married couples do {go to home depot on the weekends and movies on a Saturday night.} It was just the two of us living in marriage bliss.

When you become a parent your world is flipped completely upside down. No longer are you just a married couple, you are a family. The days of spending time with one another and going to the movies are gone {or few and far between.} Never did I realize when I became a mother that my time spent with my husband would never be the same as it used to be.

I wouldn’t change my life now for anything but I still miss the time MacKay and I spent together before parenthood. We try to make as much time for one another as possible after Harlan goes to bed but that is still very little time.

Last weekend MacKay and I took a day for one another and spent it at the spa. I am very lucky to have a sister {who would spend everyday with Harlan if I let her} that offered to watch Harlan while MacKay and I spent a day to relax. We spent time in the sauna, got massages, and even took the time to talk. It brought be back to a time pre-Harlan when we actually took time for one another {more than a couple hours.} It was perfect. As we ended our day and started to head home MacKay and I both looked at each other with a smirk. I knew exactly what he was thinking and he knew the same. We both missed Harlan. As much as we enjoyed spending time alone, we missed our little girl and could not wait to pick her up from my sisters and give her a big hug.

Parenting allows you to easily let life get in the way and put your marriage on the back burner. It is not something that is intentional, it’s just life. I’ve realized that it is necessary for a marriage to have times when you can spend times by yourselves {more than a couple hours.} Not only is it time alone, but time to strengthen and continue to build on your relationship. As much as we both love Harlan, it was our love for one another that started it all. And that is something that I need to be constantly reminded of and take more time for.