When MacKay and I started dating we would spend as much time with each other as possible. We had a long distance relationship so when we were together our time was precious. After we got married and had our own house it was so great to do all of the fabulous things that young married couples do {go to home depot on the weekends and movies on a Saturday night.} It was just the two of us living in marriage bliss.
When you become a parent your world is flipped completely upside down. No longer are you just a married couple, you are a family. The days of spending time with one another and going to the movies are gone {or few and far between.} Never did I realize when I became a mother that my time spent with my husband would never be the same as it used to be.
I wouldn’t change my life now for anything but I still miss the time MacKay and I spent together before parenthood. We try to make as much time for one another as possible after Harlan goes to bed but that is still very little time.
Last weekend MacKay and I took a day for one another and spent it at the spa. I am very lucky to have a sister {who would spend everyday with Harlan if I let her} that offered to watch Harlan while MacKay and I spent a day to relax. We spent time in the sauna, got massages, and even took the time to talk. It brought be back to a time pre-Harlan when we actually took time for one another {more than a couple hours.} It was perfect. As we ended our day and started to head home MacKay and I both looked at each other with a smirk. I knew exactly what he was thinking and he knew the same. We both missed Harlan. As much as we enjoyed spending time alone, we missed our little girl and could not wait to pick her up from my sisters and give her a big hug.
Parenting allows you to easily let life get in the way and put your marriage on the back burner. It is not something that is intentional, it’s just life. I’ve realized that it is necessary for a marriage to have times when you can spend times by yourselves {more than a couple hours.} Not only is it time alone, but time to strengthen and continue to build on your relationship. As much as we both love Harlan, it was our love for one another that started it all. And that is something that I need to be constantly reminded of and take more time for.
9 comments
Glamamom
Twitter: glamamom
So true! I’m glad you guys had such a great day together. What a gorgeous couple you make!
Lauren
Thank you, Jill! 😉
DadStreet
Great post! So funny as my wife and I just went on one of our first dates in a long time the other week. In fact, we’re going on another one tomorrow! I could totally relate to you in how important it is to make time for each other. It’s so hard as we feel guilty for leaving our kids. What’s important to remember is that it’s okay to feel guilty, it’s okay to feel sad about leaving the little one’s for a few hours. In the end you can accept that there is a little hurt knowing you’re building on something so beautiful and the outcome is one big happy family.
Glamamom is right, you guys are a cute couple. I know I just said, “cute”…Okay, I said it in a very manly, hair on my chest, beer drinking kind of way. 😉
Lauren
Isn’t is so easy to forget that you need time for yourselves. Good for you two for getting out! It’s easy to miss Harlan but spending that quality time with my hubby is important too. And thank you for the “manly” compliment! 😉
NYCPatty
Twitter: nycpatty
Such a great post! I’m so glad you enjoyed your day together 🙂
Lauren
Thank you Patty! It was a much needed spa day for both of us!
Alicia @MommyDelicious
Twitter: MommyDelicious
I bet it was good to get out and just enjoy each other even though you missed Harlan. What an attractive couple! You guys look so good together. I love the matching blue.
Ebony
I completely agree with everything you have said in this post. I never realised how much my relationship with my husband would change once we had children. I don’t complain, because I chose this lifestyle and I love it, but there are moments when I *do* miss the times that my husband and I shared together, just the two of us.
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